Being Single

I know of three beautiful women who until know are not yet married. You might take notice of the contrasting ideas in my first statement. I reiterate that they are all beautiful inside and out but, yes, they are still single. All of them are successful in their careers, working in different government offices. I got to meet and befriend these wonderful women when I started getting active in our parish. And yes, these women are devout and active members in the church. People have even referred them as the Tres Marias.

It is from them that I learned that a person should not be in a hurry to settle down and create a family. Unlike most teens now who marry early because of some personal reasons such as unexpected pregnancy, escape from poverty, to name a few. It was reflected from a study conducted that couples who settled down early result to failed marriage in the later part of their relationship. While many girls are in a hurry to get married, many are also left behind and become old maids.

Today, physical appearance, financial stability and good personality are no longer reassuring qualities that a person is secured to have a lasting partner in life. Many of the women today experience the same situation with the Tres Marias that I know. However, as what I was told, priorities in life change as we advance in age and maturity. Maybe, younger adults are always on the go in looking for Mr. Right. But this is not always the case. Some young women tend to focus on establishing themselves with regards to their career and financial solidity. Some of my friends would share that Mr. Right would just come in the most unanticipated time and place.

I knew that the lovely Tres Marias I know had hoped that they’d find their partners in life. Although, one of them had disclosed to me that she had accepted her fate that she is meant to be single for the rest of her life. I just suppose that the other two are still waiting and on tenterhooks. There are really those who remain sanguine in all aspects knowing that we are blinded of what the future holds for everyone.

My previous employer shared to me a very interesting story which I think would sprinkle hope to those single out there. The story began with my previous employer’s former classmate who was a spinster. At the age of 55, she had already accepted her fate. When she was given a chance to go for a vacation, she accepted knowing that she had no one to leave behind while she was away. On her way back home, she picked the wrong travelling bag from the airport. She only realized this upon getting home to start unpacking. Though, the bag was exactly the same as her bag. She precipitately called the airport to report about the slip-up. Fortunately, the one who claimed her bag had also done the same. The airport personnel organized their meeting for the proper exchange of bags. During the meeting, she was surprised to discover that the one who took her bag was her first boyfriend way back in her teenage years. That incident united them again. She later found out that he was a widower for almost three years already. He has kids who are already professionals. Eventually, their past relationship was rekindled after he found out that she remained unmarried all her life. After a year of dating, they decided to get married.

Really, no one knows what the future holds. We may find it impossible that such instances could happen in the later part of our lives but who knows. Some people regard being single as an option. But what about those who do not have any options to take.

Life will always remain as mysterious. The existence of man is a product of interconnected eventualities that happen around the planet. However, we can never deny that we can still find true happiness in being single although we relentlessly fail to find the right partner or when no one seems available for us. It is just a matter of putting the right attitude and perspective in every situation that falls for it. As what a common saying goes, there are many fishes in the ocean. Go and explore the other parts of it.

By: Jed Paolo A. Cairo

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