Not in rivalry

Men and women are never meant to be equal in terms of their roles played in society. This I always say, believing that it’s a foundational truth designed by the Creator himself. They may enjoy equal rights and privileges, having equal access to opportunities, but their designated roles will always differ from each other.

Try to confuse these roles, like let them swap the same, or merge them, and they are sure to end up in trouble. Masculine roles will always be for men, and feminine, for women. Men should not insist on taking feminine roles, nor should the women take on that of the men’s. There are specific roles designed for each gender that cannot be played by the other, exemplified by giving birth to babies, which is solely for women.

Again, failure to deviate from these roles could result in trouble. Man is supposed to be a pillar, the stronger gender in many aspects. But when he turns weak–physically, emotionally, etc.—he becomes a good-for-nothing creature in relation to the opposite sex. On the other hand, when a woman becomes too strong and powerful, she overwhelms her man with her domineering figure, full of threats and intimidation.

Sure enough, union between such figures playing the same roles is not that harmonious. Man would feel so awkward and uncomfortable, his actions unnatural, if he is under such a tyrannical, boisterous woman. One mistake and he would get shouted at, the foul mouth of the woman issuing fiery words that are harsh to swallow. Her glaring eyes alone are daggers to his chest, enough to make him run around for a simple command.

While this man may prove quite obedient, we know that in his heart, he is never happy. He knows that his appropriate role is trampled down, ignored, and rejected. This could lead to self-pity, a source of shame and embarrassment, especially if people around could see him being treated like a slave. His false humility comes only out of fear, for down deep in his heart, he is clamoring for freedom and is just, perhaps, waiting for chances to liberate himself.

Problem with the man-as-head role is that, men tend to abuse. He may think he is all-powerful that the woman could not help but obey all his wishes and caprices, even if it means reducing her to the level of the beasts. He may forget that his stronger figure has been designed for her protection, that he should take good care of her in love and adoration. He is to guard her, love her, and support her, not using his authority to bastardize her.

If only men and woman will play their appropriate roles, there would be no trouble arising between them. After all, they are not in for a competition, or rivalry, but for a harmonious partnership in the field of human relations.

By: Doms Pagliawan

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